“He hooked up 3 girls at the same party what a bro, right?”
“She hooked up with 2 guys this weekend. Can you say slut?”
Same situation two completely different results. Why is that teenage girls are incapable of being sexually open when in turn teenage boys are praised for their escapades?
It’s not just the double standards but the open shaming of girls conducted by both sexes that causes the real problems.
Girls often play both the victims and perpetrators in the situation of slut shaming. What many fail to realize is that calling someone a slut can have truly dire consequences.
After being bullied and called a slut online multiple times, 12 year old Gaberielle Molina hanged herself leaving a note to explain her reasoning for suicide.
These kind of occurrences aren’t just hypothetical situations. The sad reality is that many people feel the need to shame girls who are open with their sexuality or even seem to be “provocatively” dressed.
There’s nothing new with this misogynistic language but what is new is the ease at which these words can be sent from behind a screen leaving girls hurt, ashamed, and even possibly dead.
Girls shouldn’t have to fear talking about sex when guys never have too and vice versa guys shouldn’t have to fear not talking about sex when girls never have too.
Girls should be able to have sex and be proud of it. A girls body is a personal thing one that she should have full control of. It’s not something other’s have a place to comment on, especially when the comments are negative.
Teenage girls have the right to do what they please with their bodies, they can say yes or no to whom ever they want and shouldn’t live in fear of being labeled as a slut.
The main problem is with the fear of women being sexual beings. The fear seems to stem hate and people are mostly afraid of a woman who is empowered and sexually in charge and in control of her own body.
Some people were raised to feel this way because the people in their lives didn’t have a positive attitude towards women, and they don’t realize that that’s why they have issues.
That’s why as women we must stand up for ourselves, voice our own sexual experiences, and make sure it’s known that men are not the only ones that act upon urges.